Are You Lying to Yourself? (And How Negative Emotion Points You to Truth)

Here’s a slightly embarrassing story.

A few years ago, I decided I was going to stay in a positive vibration all the time. I pictured myself as a serene woodland sage who wakes up, greets the morning, communes with faeries, and floats through the day in a perpetual bubble of bliss.

This lasted… about two mornings.

By day three, I woke up irritated with my lumpy pillow, irritated with my dog whining for breakfast, irritated with the fog blocking my sunrise, and—mostly—irritated with myself. As I stumbled into the kitchen for tea, a wave of crankiness hit so hard it felt like someone had swapped my blood for fire ants.

My first thought was:
“Ugh. Why am I in such a bad mood? I’m doing everything right.”

Then another thought came in—one of those inconveniently true ones:
“No you’re not. You’re trying to force positive feelings instead of letting your heart lead you to where they naturally exist.”

That’s when an Abraham-Hicks quote lit up in my mind:

“Negative emotion always means the same thing… My thought or behavior is moving in opposition with who I really am and what I really want.”

In other words: negative emotion simply means we’ve temporarily stepped off our soul path… or lost track of our golden thread.

The Truth We Don’t Want to Admit

Negative emotion isn’t punishment. It’s a treasure map.

It’s a signpost. A clue. A whisper.

My crankiness had nothing to do with pillows or fog. It came from spiritual bypassing—trying to plaster “positivity” over the spots where I was actually misaligned. That never works. Ignore a signpost and it just pops up bigger, brighter, louder.

Something inside you—your inner being, wise self, higher guidance—taps you and says:

“You’re pretending you want something you don’t… or pretending you don’t want something you really do.”

The Body Is a Truth-Teller

Emotions aren’t moral judgments. They’re navigation tools.

Your inner being is a luminous GPS.
Your emotions are the gentle course corrections.

When you feel irritation, heaviness, dread, resentment, overwhelm, tightness—those sensations are not evidence that life is hard or that you’ve failed. They’re simply saying:

“This thought you’re thinking?
This story you’re repeating?
This behavior you’re forcing yourself into?
It’s not who you really are.”

Which leads to the real question:

Where or How Are You Lying to Yourself?

Sometimes the lies are obvious:

“I’m not good enough.”
“I don’t really care.”
“I don’t need help.”
“I guess this is just how life is.”

Sometimes they’re wrapped in self-sacrifice:

“I’ll just keep the peace.”
“It’s selfish to want more.”

Sometimes they’re disguised as discipline:

“I have to stick to this plan even though I’m about to crash and burn.”

But the body knows.
The heart knows.
Emotion tells the truth every time.

Negative Emotion Is a Magical Compass

Here’s the shift that changed everything:

Instead of treating negative emotion like a cosmic demerit, I started treating it like a faery messenger tapping politely:

“Hi. Hello. You’re drifting away from your golden thread. Thought you’d want to know.”

When I began listening, everything softened.

I stopped forcing positivity.
I followed my excitement instead.
Some mornings I walked barefoot in the garden.
Some mornings I journaled.
Some mornings I danced around the kitchen like a woodland sprite.

And my emotional baseline lifted—not because I worked harder, but because I stopped lying to myself (at least a lot more of the time).

Here’s a Simple Check-In to Catch the Lies Early

The first thing to ask is, “Is this feeling even mine?” If the answer is a heavy sensation, that indicates that you picked it up from someone else and you can just send it back with a blessing.

If it does feel like yours, try this exercise:

The Inner Alignment Scan

1. Notice how you’re feeling. Let it be.
2. Ask: “What thought am I thinking right now?”
Or: “What belief is keeping this feeling active?”
3. Ask: “How does this thought feel in my body?”
4. If it feels tight or heavy, ask: “What am I holding onto that doesn’t align with my Soul Path?”

That last question is the key.

Not “What should I think?” or “What’s spiritually correct?”

But: “Knowing that my infinite inner self feels joyful peace all the time, what am I telling myself right now that blocks that?”

Then listen for the truth. Truth always feels lighter—even just a hair.

Truth might say:

“I don’t want to do this right now.”
“I’m scared and pretending I’m not.”
“I want something bigger than what I’ve allowed myself to ask for.”

Whenever you veer from the joyful peace of your inner self, you’re telling yourself a lie. Like putting clouds in front of the sun. The sun doesn’t change—you just forgot to rise above the clouds (or, as Bashar would say, you forgot to follow your excitement).

And the moment you recognize the truth, the negative emotion dissolves.
Alignment returns.
Your golden thread glows again.

You Don’t Need to Fix Anything

Most people think healing means changing themselves.

More often, it means ending the internal argument.

You don’t need to conquer fear.
You don’t need to banish doubt.
You don’t need to overhaul your entire personality by next Tuesday.

You just need to stop clinging to thoughts your soul doesn’t agree with.

And suddenly, reality feels different—not because the world changed, but because you stopped pretending.

Truth is the most magical, liberating, shimmering energy there is.

A Gentle Invitation

If you feel called to explore alignment tools and magical shifts more deeply, Magical-Life Coaching can help.

Just remember:

Negative emotion is never the enemy.
It’s the signpost.
Let it show you the way back to your truth—

And everything gets easier from there.